In the search for happiness!

People are desperately searching happiness here and there madly, isn't it? I have too seen people going mad after one another because they think their addiction as their happiness.

 In-search of happiness

A well said quote which is like:

"Beware of destination Addiction - it's an idea that happiness is in the next place, next job with the next partner. But, until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are".

Do everyone live their life only to get to the end of it? The answer to the most of the people was 'NO' , but not everybody who says, mean it too. The term 'Destination addiction' is a major block to the success. People who suffer from 'Destination addiction' believes that success is only their destination. They have adapted their mind with an idea that the future is where the success is, happiness is. They always live in the 'Not Now' scenario. By this we suffer,  form the pursuit of happiness because we are always on the run and our goal is not to enjoy the day, it is somehow to get through the day. There is no chance of arrival and we are permanently dissatisfied. There are various myths related to happiness as:

• People can never make you happy:

You should understand the fact that other people can never make you happy. It is the first wrong assumptions made by many of us. If you put your happiness in others people hand absolutely it's a risky one to do! Still we do it, Right? But the bitter truth is that instead of making you happy, people will make you feel more miserable. 

 Assume an example, that you thought and decided to be happy when you fell in love with the right person you desire. Someone who will love you really hard and understand you to the bone. For instance, suppose it happens. And you are happy because your desire fulfilled. Now lets say for a while he flirted with someone else, then what, everything collapses, right? You are again in a bad mood and unhappy. 'Neither a perfect lover nor a perfect boss can make you happy any how'.

Most do it purposely and many unintentionally. 

• Shopping will make you happy as it's trending:

These material things are a short term happiness which they can bring. There is no possessions in the world that will make you happy that too forever. Research has shown that when something extreme happens to the people like winning a lottery it only influences their happiness level for for the short term. After that people are back to their normal phase may it be happy or unhappy as they are used to be. So if you go too far with the addictions you can even debt for unnecessary shopping excursions.

• Money as the source of happiness:

Money can never buy happiness for you but yeah, lack of it can definitely make your life miserable.  For example, a shitty relationship will make you unhappy. And likewise, lack of money will definitely make you unhappy. But having both will only contribute a little to your long term relationships. So yes, money definitely contribute a lot to happiness at a certain point of time in our life.

There are things that can make your happiness little bit increased:

1. Regular exercise
2. Bit of socializing
3. Important as well as meaningful work  
4. Not to be overwhelmed by work
5. Gratefulness

These things will definitely increase your happiness level to a certain degree but they will never convert you from an unhappy to happy person. It all depends on you after all.

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